“The only way Life can evolve a spontaneous individual is to let them alone and allow them to awaken to themself." ~ Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind
I am approaching my 60th birthday. Paul and Collette have collaborated, and are organizing a surprise. The timing of a surprise is perfect, as I am learning to ‘allow life’. (This is not an easy task for a ‘control freak’ like me. Close friends and relatives can still experience frustration with my micro-managing skills 😉 , even though I have come a long way).
As the last few days before my special weekend approach, it seems I can’t stop asking questions about birthday details: “What should I bring? Which shoes should I pack? How many nights? Is water involved? What time are we leaving?” Collette has been calm and cool and has kept the details far away. She has expressed how much fun she has been experiencing through organizing a surprise for me.
I too am giddy with anticipation. Turns out I love surprises!! But… the micromanager in me couldn’t seem to hold back on seeking more details. Monday, I sent a text to Collette asking, “Did you invite Deanna?”
“Seriously?” Collette lamented in response, “You are asking me if I invited one of your best friends? I could beat you with a pool noodle right now! No more questions!”
‘Allowing life’ can be tricky business. There is a happy spot between consciously moving in the direction of desire, and simply letting Life happen. (Please note that ‘letting life’ doesn’t mean becoming a victim of circumstance. In fact, surrender is far, far from this). I know first hand the complexity of this state of being because I am working hard on allowing. (Is that an oxymoron … what can I say?)
This musing puts me in mind of the retreat property we are still holding in our consciousness. It is pretty clear to me that we will have a beautiful property on which to erect the Centre’s yurt. We have the yurt, we have the money, we just don’t have the spot… YET. All the contemplation, meditation and life coaching I have been engaging in keeps turning me towards the same solution... “the property is looking for you. You don’t need to make this happen. It IS happening. Allow it to happen”. This wisdom is then followed by, “What actions will I take to make the property welcome?”. This last question is a very different question from, “What do I need to do next to make this happen?”
For a personality like mine, that mostly knows how to “git ‘r done”, allowing seems foreign. I guess that, by writing this article, I am inviting you to bear witness to my growth curve. “How is Jill going to cultivate allowing?” More faith and more trust are definitely helpful.
Let us restate our Principle: “We are surrounded by an Infinite Possibility. Its [nature is] Goodness, Life, Law and Reason. In expressing Itself through us, It becomes more fully conscious of Its own being. Therefore, It wishes to express through us. As It passes into our being, It automatically becomes the law of our lives. It can pass into expression through us only as we consciously allow It to do so. Therefore, we should have faith in It, and Its desires and Its ability to do for us all that we shall ever need to have done”. ~ Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind
We all run into problems when we think we need to make something happen. We tell ourselves to work harder, affirm more, be grateful daily (at least 10 new affirmations per day) and journal about it, create a vision board, see a Practitioner…. While all these practices are good, at some level they can be misused if we are trying to force Life to be, one way or another. As soon as we start forcing in any way, we limit Infinite Potential.
Life isn’t linear. I can’t get from here to there using a set equation... like ‘go to school, complete an education, get a job, make money, buy a house and live happily ever after’. Life doesn’t work neatly that way, ever! There is no A + B = C. The journey is more like, ‘A meets B, flips over to Q, finds W, flys to R, runs to C only to discover P’. The world of Quantum physics is all about probability, and where the infinite is concerned, anything is possible!
My Practitioner has been kindly suggesting a change I might consider for about 6 years. Just yesterday, I said, “You know what? I have an idea. I am going to make a change in the way I life.” Well, they almost fell out of their chair.
‘You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make them drink’, as the saying goes. (I recall a time when, for 10 minutes, Donna and I stood in a stream trying to get my horse, Mike, to drink. Nope, it wasn’t happening. So, I have lived this quote).
I begin today with a willingness to stop forcing life, and to allow the Greater Good that wants to express through me to do so. I am open, and awakening to greater possibilities each and every day. Oh, this birthday weekend is going to be so much fun!!
ACTIVITIES FOR TRANSFORMATION
~ Where in your life are you tending to push for results, or trying to control a situation or experience?
~ What is at least one place where you can practice letting go and “allowing” more often? (What might you be afraid of that is keeping you holding on? Is that fear story really based in Truth?)
~ Try letting go and allowing, even just a little. Keep track of what happens within you and without when you do. No judgement required. Simply receive the wisdom that will rise in you, and let it inform you.